Included below are some suggestions on adapting the usual baby shower formula to suit an adoption shower; including appropriate games, a gift guide and how to word an adoption shower invitation.
ACTIVITIES + GAMES
Have guests submit photographs of themselves as a baby or child before the shower and make a game out of guessing which photo belongs to which guest. You can also include photos of famous celebrities as children to make it more challenging.
Wishes For Baby
Have guests write down their well wishes for the adoptive child or best parenting advice on a piece of paper for the adoptive parents to read through after the shower.
You can also use a template such as this one.
Instead of traditional baby shower girls, ask guests to bring a copy of their favourite children's book as a gift.
Mad-Libs are where guests are asked to write down a series of verbs, nouns and adjectives without any context. They’re then asked to inset them into a story about the new parents to be; which they can read out loud to the group.
You can download a free adoption appropriate mad-lib template here.
Piece of Advice Puzzle
The adopted child is often the missing piece of the puzzle for some families, so celebrate that by creating a blank puzzle. Each guest can then write their best piece of parenting advice on a puzzle piece.
Create a quiz about the parents-to-be. Get the answers off the mum and dad beforehand and see how your guests score. Questions can include;
How many kids does each person want?
How wold was Mum/Dad when they said their first words?
What were their first words?
What are their favourite baby names?
What were their pet names as children?
What is their pet name for the child they’re adopting?
What gender do you think there child will be?
What gender do they think their child will be?
Click here for an example.
This is a nice personal keepsake for the adopted child’s room.
Adoptive parents wont have ultrasound photos for their baby books, so give them something for the first page by setting up a Photo Booth for guests to enjoy! Adopted children can look back on these photos in the years to come and see how celebrated and wanted they were.
You can add fun props such as ‘cant wait to meet you!’ or ‘worth the wait!’ signs.
Consider a 'Blessingway'
This is a little hippy-dippy, but would certainly be an empowering spiritual experience for any mum to be. I find the idea to be very beautiful and a nice alternative to the traditional baby shower.
I've included this in particular for the adoptive mother, who can sometimes feel disconnected and cut off from other women and their experience of motherhood. This is a neat way to bring together her support network and re-assure mama that you’ve got her back, no matter what.
You can read about the ritual of a blessing way here. You could include activities such as body painting or time-capsule planting into this ritual.
Pink & Blue
Simple & Floral
'Our Greatest Adventure'
'Nacho Average Baby Shower'
'We Will Love you to the Moon & Back'
You may have to be creative when it comes to creating invitations for an adoption shower.
Here are some ideas;
"A new addition to the nest - join us in honouring the parents-to-be"
"Families grow with love. Please join us for an adoption shower honouring (name here)"
"A mum and a dad we are ready to be. On the way is a precious baby Delivered with love by a stork from above; Please join us to celebrate the adoption of (name here) "
"Their home is set to grow by two precious feet, so join us for celebration and something to eat at (name's) adoption shower"
"A wonderful new adventure! (parents names) are adopting! Lets celebrate with an adoption shower."
"Here is to hugs, joy and laughter as we welcome little (surname) into our happily ever after. Please celebrate with us at an Adoption shower"
A fantastic gift for any adoptive or foster parent is a gift card to a children clothing store such as Cotton On Kids or Pumpkin Patch. Since buying clothes for an adopted child can be hard, this will still help mum and Dad be able to go out and choose something sweet on your behalf when they know what size their child will be.
Other ideas include;
+ An Adoption Keepsake Journal
+ 'Paper Pregnant' shirt
+ Family Ever After Onesie
+ Keep Calm & Finish The Paperwork Mug
+ Love Makes a Family custom print
+ ‘Adventure Awaits’ nursery Hanging
+ Mama Necklace
+ Children’s Growth Marker Ruler
+ Custom Family Gumboot Print
+ Mama, Papa & Little Bear Shirts
+ Customised Hanky ( for all those happy tears that come with adoption!)