Disclaimer: This is not a medical blog. I am not a medical professional. This is not medical advice. This is simply a recount of my own experience and an exploration of what is working for me right now on a physical and emotional level. Every woman and every experience is different. This is anecdotal. Please see your doctor before trying any of it, just as I did.
Miscarriage is physically, emotionally and hormonally taxing. I read an article that said it is akin to a sort of birth is some ways because the body is in a huge state of flux and change; except you don't get the oxytocin or the other feel good stuff. I can subscribe to that idea. My body felt confused. In the midst of the trauma, I found myself trawling the internet for an answer to my question "how do you heal from a miscarriage?".
I was resigned to the fact that this had happened, and there was nothing that could be done to stop it. My bleeding had stopped, my hormonal breakouts and mood swings were subsiding and the worst was over. I just wasn't sure how to re-unify my misplaced body, mind and soul. How do I feel better, look better and feel hopeful moving forward? How do I re-gain control, even if it is just a token motion to help me feel like I am in command of myself once more?
I started looking closely at my health and how in tune I was with my body; and I discovered that even prior to this loss, I'd been taking my average health for granted. I'd been putting off medical procedures, ignoring inflammation and their sources, and living in a way that was comfortable, but out of touch with what would benefit me in the long run. Whilst I am 100% aware that nothing I did caused my miscarriage, it did occur to me that there were things I could do now to help me feel better, and possibly lower my risk next time.
What resulted was a list of steps I could take to heal - in the total sense of the word - from this season of life. They were not drastic. They were not derived from anywhere other than my own intuition and gut feeling as to what may benefit my mind, body and soul at this point in time. After checking them off with my GP, (who was enthused about seeing some of the changes she'd been advocating for years), I decided to share them here.
Life is still a little chaotic over the wildling way at the moment. I'm back at work and we're getting ready to move soon. My intention is to roll each stage out a week at a time, with no real pressure or expectation; more of a selective focus to dim the noise. I've already implemented the simplest changes and feel so much better for it.
Week 1 - Healing Through Medicine
Showing up to my myriad of after-care appointments at the hospital.
Booking in several uncomfortable investigative procedures I've been avoiding.
Facing my fear and shelling out for much needed dental work + shots.
Making use of over time and leave to address my health, instead of putting it off for another day.
Week 2 - Healing Through Supplementation
Giving myself the best tools I can to set my health straight.
Addressing diagnosed deficiencies.
Indulging in tonics that do good on any level.
Week 3 - Healing Through Consumption
Taking it back to basics by listening to my body and what micro nutrients it is craving.
Finding comfortable ways to include more organic fruit and vegetables in my days, without dieting.
Using food as complimentary medicine; eating to reduce inflammation and congestion.
Eating to boost fertility.
Week 4 - Healing Through Sweat
introducing my body to gentle feel good movement every day
Preparing my pelvic floor muscles for a rainbow baby
Week 5 - Healing Through Habitat
Making sure what is around me makes me feel energised and centred
Finding ways to make what is good for me more convenient.
I intend to make weekly updates with my progress and thoughts on each element of my healing process.